The Perfect Person Implies Perfect Timing: Bulls**t
We live with this preconceived idea that the perfect person for us implies perfect timing. Well, I call bulls**t. There are several factors that come in to play when analyzing this false pretense of perfection.
The first aspect to consider is the definition of the term timing. According to option A of the first definition on the Merriam-Webster online dictionary timing is “a placement or occurrence in time.” Option B for the first definition states that timing is “the ability to select the precise moment for doing something for the optimum effect.” Both definitions appoint different attitudes a person can have in relation to the topic of love: the ones who wait for an occurrence in time of impeccable perfection that allows them to meet their perfect person and the ones who time the moment and make it happen.
The first option, waiting for an occurrence in time of impeccable perfection, will never work. There a number of factors that come in to play. First of all, the factors of time and place are the ones that will determine if you are even remotely close to meeting your perfect person on the physical plain. So, what does this mean? It means that if you are limited to one place for your entire life, due to work or any other circumstance, you will never meet your perfect person if they live half the world away. If you are physically limited to a certain geographical area for your entire life and your perfect person lives somewhere else, you will never meet them; unless, they were to appear in your social circle for some reason. This is an idea worth exploring if you believe in the perfect timing concept.
The second and most important factor to take into consideration is yourself. When you meet someone, sometimes, this interaction can be influenced by your emotional behavior on that day or in that moment. So, add this on top of the fact that your time and place are limited to your possibilities of movement and you will have no chance of ever meeting your perfect person. The timing as an occurrence will be off and the timing which you can select will be none because you are not in control of your emotions; so any remote possibility of meeting your perfect person will be affected by your emotions.
An example: you live in an average sized city; you have never traveled outside of your own country; your entire life plan and intentions are set to be in your city. This limits your possibility of meeting your perfect person close to zero, if you believe the perfect timing and perfect person crap. You don’t intend on leaving your city; therefore, your social groups will remain practically the same; if your perfect person lives somewhere far away, your chances keep decreasing. So, chances are you will never meet your perfect person.
Given this example, I believe that the only timing which we can control and which truly matters is our emotional timing. If we have never traveled outside of our country; if we don’t intend on leaving our city, then leaving everything to chance means we may never meet our perfect person. However, if you believe that your emotional behavior is the only thing that matters, then your chances will skyrocket. You have automatically made every single person in your city a candidate to be your perfect person, because all that matters is the way you feel.
Lets set another example: you are hung up on a person that does not and will not love you back. But a friend introduces you to this amazing person they think is perfect for you. So you go ahead and meet this person, but you are emotionally unavailable because you were thinking about someone else when you met this person. Therefore, the impact that this person could’ve had on you was reduced to how much you let them in. The beauty of this concept resides in that it only depends on you. Maybe you meet someone a second time and this time they do click with you. Well, what’s changed? Time and place? Maybe. The perfection of the timing? No, because if the perfect person implies perfect timing then there is truly only one moment for that to happen and it has to be perfect. What changes are your emotions and the impact you allowed that person to have on you.
I’m not saying this is true: this is what I think and choose to believe. Have fun with this theory if you’re going through a rough time. Don’t lose hope that your perfect person isn’t out there for you. Maybe you’ve already met them, but you were emotionally unavailable. Allow people to have an impact on you by being aware of your emotions and not letting them get in the way of your life. Give yourself a chance to connect and don’t leave everything down to chance.
